Teaching Kids the Art of Memory Making: An SEL Lesson about Positive Impressions

Today, we’re going to be talking about something that affects all of us – memories. Did you know that we have the power to shape the memories that others have of us? That’s right, everything we do and say gets stored in “memory files” in the minds of those around us, and it’s up to us to decide what kind of memories we want to create.

Let’s start by comparing a brain to a computer, like the one in my cell phone.  Periodically, my phone sends me a message that it is out of storage and it’s time to free up space, or some memory.  Our brains are constantly sorting through memories, too, deciding what to hold onto and what to let go of.

Just like phones, our brains have storage limits.  They can’t hold onto every single memory.And just like I have to decide which photos to keep and which to delete, our brains have to make the same decision with our memories. Over time, some fade away while others are held onto tightly. These are the memories that are important or attached to strong feelings. 

Now, here’s the interesting part – we have the power to create long-lasting memories in the minds of others through our words and actions. Imagine you’re with some classmates at recess. If you make a point to invite people to join a game, play by the rules, and use good sportsmanship, they’ll feel comfortable and happy when they think of you, and will want to spend more time with you.

On the other hand, if you have a habit of complaining, tattling, and bossing people around, you’re likely to create negative memories for those around you. They’ll feel uncomfortable and less likely to want to spend time with you.

Now, before you start feeling too guilty, remember that nobody is perfect. We all do things that can annoy others. But by making a conscious effort to do more of the things that people appreciate and less of the things that annoy them, we develop a positive image of ourselves inside the minds of those around us.

So, next time you’re interacting with others, think about the memories you want to create. Your words and actions have the power to shape how people perceive and remember you, so use them wisely.